英语中美婚姻观的跨文化对比研究(编辑修改稿)

英语中美婚姻观的跨文化对比研究(编辑修改稿)内容摘要：

efore they got married, fifty six point five percent got married because they got good relations before they married, and sixteen percent of the people had no feeling to each other before they got married (允康， 2020). The survey showed that not all the people geting married because of love, some of them even had no feeling to each other at all when they got married. The Purpose of getting married in America The purpose of getting married in America firstly is for the affection between the lovers to achieve a perfect result. Secondly they want to look for a longterm heterosexual partner to satisfy their psychological and physical needs. Western society attaches great importance to the development of personal independence, and people there have a strong sense of independence and selfcenteredness. In western society, individualism is extremely popular, people think marriage is just the bination of two individuals and love is the foundation of marriage. In their views, marriage without love is immoral and of lowquality. An American woman who was interviewed for her opnion on marriage once said, marriage is just a kind of form, it is not very important. The important thing is the feeling when two people are together. If the feeling is gone, then she think their relationship is just a burden and it is good for both of them to give up this relationship (董茜 ,2020). Louis Harris, a wellknown US expert in sociology conducted a survey, and the statistic showed that, 83% of American men and women believe that love is the primary element to get 桂林电子科技大学毕业设计（论文）报告用纸 第 3 页 共 12 页 married, and 90% of the American people also believe that love is the first condition to maintain a happy marriage (蔡琪 ,2020). So from the survey, we can see that seeking true love is the most important purpose of geting married for most Americans. Therefore, we can learn that, to get married in America is the right of individual, and Chinese marriage is more like to fulfill their obligations. The Differences of Selecting a Spouse According to China Youth Daily in 2020, several teachers and students of Nankai University recently pleted an interesting survey. They selected some spouseseeking advertisments in Tanjin and Boston‟s local mainstream newspapers to study the differences of selecting a spouse in these two cities. The survey showed that the words and sentences often appeared in men‟s advertisments in Tianjin newspaper were “have a stable job”, “no bad habbits” and “responsible”。 and women‟s advertisments always emphasized that they were kind, virtuous and from a good family。 while in Boston, both men and women would indicate their races, religious beliefs and hobbies, they would say they loved sports, they were smart and had a sense of humor. According to the analysis of the samples of the spouseseeking advertisments, a psychology professor in Nankai University concluded that Chinese marriage seekers paid more attention to the economic condition and responsibility, while Americans were more concerned about the congeniality in life and spirit. How Chinese People Choose a Spouse China has a feudal history of more than 2020 years。 the feudal ideas attached great importance to kinship. It‟s a mom phenomenon that children will rely on their parents until they graduated from school. And parents are taken care of by their children when they are old. “To arrange a match by parents‟ order and on the matchmaker‟s word” is the traditional way of selecting a mate, which has been popular for thousands of years. This ancient way of choosing a mate is also reflected by Chinese people‟s awareness of caring for each other and the psychology of interdependent. Since the enacting of the policy of reform and openingup, along with economic development and cultural exchange between China and America, Chinese young generation are no longer affected by the traditional ideas, they get a chance to choose their spouses freely. They believe that being free to choose a mate is also an important part to realize their selfvalue. When young people fall in love, they believe that whether the partner‟s interests and character are congenial or not is an important factor for them to get along with each other. However, due to the influence of Chinese traditonal culture and ethics, today parents still meddle in their children‟s growth, and expect their children to develop along the way they have designed for them. Most of the young people growing up under the wings of their parents are not independent enough, and independence is the prerequisite for free love. Therefore, parents still have an important influence on their child‟s marriage. In a sense, on the issue of selecting a spouse, parents are still indirectly “in power”. 桂林电子科技大学毕业设计（论文）报告用纸 第 4 页 共 12 页 There are two impartant traditional standards to choose a spouse in China. Firstly the girl must e from a clean background, and secondly the groom‟s family and bride‟s family must be wellmached in social and economic status. The bridegroom‟s family usually request that the bride is from a clean background. When choosing a spouse for their son, the first thing the parents do is to investigate whether the girl is from a clean family, because they believe that only a girl with a clean background can scrupulously follow the traditional woman‟s ethics, hornor her inlaws and get along well with her relatives. And the condition of wellmatchedness in social and economic status is particularly valued by Chinese traditonal parents. In Chinese classic love story, when a poor boy and a rich girl fell in love, they always met intense obstruction from the girl‟s family. And a poor girl could only be a concubine when she married into a rich and powerful family. Nowadays, Chinese young people‟s standard of selecting a spouse does not str。