任何环境下保持信心的方法doc12全英文-经营管理(编辑修改稿)

任何环境下保持信心的方法doc12全英文-经营管理(编辑修改稿)内容摘要：

d study the answers you hastily scrawled in your notebook. Transform passive thoughts (“What do you want from me? I’m shy! It isn’t my fault...) to active ones (“I am shy, but I’m doing something about it...”) 9 Find a remedy for each reason you wrote down for your shyness. For example: “ I felt intimidated because I was afraid my boss would criticize me. But why should he have any reason to criticize me? Did I make a Page 12 mistake? If so, how can I rectify it?” “ I don’t like walking down this corridor because it’s always full of people, sitting around and watching what’s going on. So what? Should I be ashamed of the way I look? Of my clothes, of my hair? Why? What concrete steps can I take so that I won’t be ashamed of myself any more? What if it’s all in my head? What if everyone isn’t looking at me...” The 4 main causes of shyness If you apply yourself, it shouldn’t take more than two weeks to determine the causes of your shyness, and the kinds of situations that set off your fear reflex. Don’t worry, there aren’t that many! In general, shyness is caused by: shame of our physical appearance, either of our body or our clothes。 fear of aggression from unknown persons, either mocking or scornful。 fear of being rejected by persons we consider important (both in our private and professional lives)。 a feeling of superiority (oh yes!) which causes us to imprison ourselves in an “ivory tower”. After two weeks of doing this exercise you’ll notice that your powers of observation are considerably sharpened. You’ll find yourself reacting differently to situations that you find terrifying, or that make you unfortable. You’ll feel that you’ve already made some Page 13 progress, without knowing exactly where the improvement lies. How to attack the root of the problem Actually, what has happened is that you’ve taken the “drama” out of your shyness. It’s very difficult to get upset about a situation that you’re able to analyze objectively. As long as your shyness remained some kind of omnipresent but vague enemy, a mysterious, frightening dragon that reared its ugly head out of the depths of your imagination from time to time, it was terrifying. But as soon as you’re able to put your finger on the essential root of the problem, by objectively answering the questions you’ve learned to ask yourself, you’ve already covered a good deal of ground on the road to victory. You’re not pletely cured, of course! The shyness you’ve been carrying around for ten, twenty or even thirty years, is not going to disappear in two weeks. You are still shy, and you may always be a little shy. Understanding others better An important element of the path you’ve just taken is the lucidity which it has automatically given you. The role of observer, which you’ve been playing for the past few weeks, has allowed you not only to identify your own motivations, but also to gain some insight into the motivations of others. There’s no mystery involved. Page 14 By sharpening your perception of yourself, you also get rid of the apprehension which has prevented you from seeing others as they are, in the full light of day. Where before you saw some kind of ogre, you now see an ordinary human being. So a person who seemed arrogant and frightening, now appears insecure, hiding their feelings of inferiority behind an aggressive personality, full of sabrerattling bravado and boasting. You’ll need a few more weeks of discipline, as well as a reasonable dose of introspection and self honesty. But you’ve already passed the most difficult part of the test you are now able to confront your shyness. Even if you remain somewhat reserved and unfortable in the limelight for the rest of your life, don’t worry. Being a little shy is not a defect on the contrary. Most of us are put off by people who are too arrogant, too sure of themselves, who impose themselves on others without ever considering that they might not be appreciated. Modesty, tact and sensitivity are all qualities that should be cultivated. Step No. 2: Balance the accounts The time has e to balance the accounts of your two weeks of “ split personality” observations. Get fortable, with your notebook handy, and ask yourself these questions: Page 15 Do you feel you know yourself better? _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ Do you think you have more control over your imagination? _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ Have your faculties of observation improved? _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ Do you laugh more often? _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ Have you noticed that you’re less likely to be clumsy in your day to day activities? _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ Do you think you’ve gotten to the root of your shyness? _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________ Page 16 Do you feel as frightened as before by other people? _______________________________。