哈佛大学幸福课第15课中英文双语笔记

哈佛大学幸福课第15课中英文双语笔记内容摘要：

able to make the 书里写道的那些人 和一般人的不同之处在于他们能够好好 best of what happens. They see it as an opportunity, a learning 利用已经发生的事 他们将这些事情看成机遇 experience, stepping stone. The importance of failure for 一种学习经历 一块垫脚石 这就是失败对于适应力与完善 resilience, for well being as well. So let me move on and define 人格的作用 我们继续谈下完美主义 what we mean by perfectionism. Because there are many 因为现在有很多定义 definitions and we throw that word around constantly. But what 我们经常谈到这个词 但是 do I actually mean by perfectionism? I define it as。 an 什么是我们所说的完美主义 我的定义是 incapacitating fear of failure that permeates our livers, especially 一种充斥在我们生活中的对失败的失能性恐惧 尤其是在 those areas that we care about most. Note the word 我们最在意的方面 注意 incapacitating, it is not just a fear of failure. OK I don’t know a “失能性 ”这个词 不是只对失败的恐惧 好吧我也不认识 person who is not afraid of failure, who is not embarrassed by it 哪怕一个不害怕失败的 也不会因为失败感到尴尬 or feels frustrated by it. So that’s natural. That’s human whether 或者沮丧的人 这是很自然的 这就是人性 we like it or not. But an incaoacitating fear of failure is the 不管我们喜不喜欢 但对于失败的失能性畏惧是 failure that is debilitating us, that stops us, that prevents us from 一种让我们面对问题的时候 裹足不前的畏惧 coping, from trying, from putting ourselves on the line. And the 而我 other part other part that I want to highlight in this definition is 要在这个定义里强调的另一点就是 that “especially those areas that we care about that we care about “尤其是我们最在意的方面 ” most”. You know, I am not a perfectionsit when it es to 你们也明白 我在玩大富翁的时候可不是完美主义 playing monopoly, it is petitive, but it’s not that important 这的确有竞争性 但对于我来 for me if I win or loss. But perfectionism was a central part of 说胜败并不重要 但是完美主义确是我生活的重心 my life when it came to as I mentioned earlier, squash which 就如同我提到过的 壁球对我 was very meaningful to me academics which is very meaningful 而言非常重要 学术对我来说非常重要 to me, and relationships which was and is a very important part 和别人的关系对我来说非常重要 of my life. So in these areas, that’s where I experienced 在这方面 我体会倒了完美主义 perfectionism, and that’s where I needed to do the work and still 也是在这些方面 我必须并且一直在努力 the work. It’s in those areas. Let me elaborate on this definition. 在这些方面 让我详细说明一下 It is an approach, a cognitive and emotional schema, that we hold toward the journey of our lives, toward the process of 这是我们在面对人生旅途的时候也就是我们从 A 点到 B 点的过程中 采取一种方式 一种认知与情感的基础 getting from point A to point B. the emphasis here is on journey. 重点是在旅途上面 A person mitted to excellence can still be as ambitious and 一个追求卓越的人仍可能和完美主义者一样 或者 more ambitious than a perfectionist. The difference between the 比完美主义更有野心 两者之间的不同 two is just their approach toward the journey. Let me illustrate. 在于他们面对旅途时的方式 我来举个例子 So let’s first take the perfectionist. The perfectionist is currently 首先是一个完美主义者 他正站在 A 点 at point A, wants to get to the point B. what’s the perfect, most 想到 B点去 什么是最完美有效的 efficient path between the two points? Straight line! This is the 方式呢 就是直的路线 就是 path this is the cognitive and emotional schema that the perfectionist 这条路线 这就是完美主义者在面对 has when he or she looks at the journey. How they want to get 旅途的时候抱有的认知与感情的基膜 from where they are now to where they want to get to. A person 怎么从起点到终点 mitted to , to excellence as。